Wednesday, April 29, 2009

What have our dicipline stratagies in schools come to?

I am a little on the irritated side of life, along with John. Monday when I came home I asked Ally how school was. She said is was just okay. I asked her why and she said that a little girl pushed her and kicked her because she was talking to one of the little girls friends. I asked Ally if she told the teacher and she said yes but that afterward the little girl proceeded to push her and try to pull her pants down. She did get Ally's pants down when she had fallen finally. Ally told me that the little girl was not "listening to the teacher". So my question is this...Since when is it NOT okay to discipline children in school? I'm not for capital punishment, however children should be reprimanded when they are out of line! I know another little boy who was standing up for his friend when he was being bullied and he got kicked in the privates. Where are the teachers? Are there too many for them to watch? And why was I not called or informed when my child was in trouble or was hurt at school by another child?

I know for a fact that a few years ago a child did something so extraordinarily out of line that the teacher reprimanded him in front of other children to get him to stop what he was doing in class immediately. The child was placing other's in danger. What did this get her/him? They were forced by the new principle to apologize to this child because they were to "rough" in reprimanding them, nothing physical but verbal. This is an excellent teacher who has taught for MANY years and is loved by all and what did this do? It tells the child to go ahead that there are NO boundaries and that it is okay to endanger others.
Two years ago I took my husband dinner. While I was there several students on the Basketball team were doing something that could possibly vandalize the school. They were asked to stop several times, nicely and then with a little more force. When they ignored my husbands co-worker John stepped in and told them to stop and to leave the campus. They left the building. When I was going out to my car I was then yelled at and called a B*&^H! Later that night I told my husband what had happened and he told the principle of the school. I received a call for my information. Nothing happens to the students. No missed games, suspension, detention nothing. Goes to show who rules the roost in the schools doesn't it? \

Why is it that people are so afraid to reprimand their children or teach their children how to act in public that they leave it to the people (teachers and such) who have their hands tied by parents who are sue happy and want money? Shouldn't we be responsible for our own children and how they act? Shouldn't we be included in incidences at school? How about teachers that have a backbone and are not afraid to call a parent and say we have an issue?
Hugh, no wonder we have so many kids killing themselves, endangering others, or worse.
One word raps it all up...sad.

2 comments:

  1. So I have question- what have you as a parent done to advocate for your daughters protection? Have you gone into the classroom to speak with the teacher/pricipal? Have you become more involved in her school? I absolutely agree that it is unacceptable for children to be treated that way by a classmate or anyone else, but I wonder if a punishment was perhaps doled out that Ally was unaware of? If in fact consequences were not provided to the bullying child, then I would be demanding an answer as too why not? Ask what consequences you can expect to be enforced for Ally when she 'defends' herself or more realistically retaliates. It sounds, from what you've described here, like the school is allowing a free for all on behavior-so teach Ally to fight back and see how quickly the school starts to comply with their own 'no tolerance' rules.

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  2. We have spoken with the teacher and explained what steps Ally has been given to protect herself. We have also spoken to the principle about the student/teacher ratio at recess. We have instructed Ally that she should stay away from this child, that if she is playing and the child comes around and starts bullying that she is to go straight to the teacher. Ally was told the steps she needs to take should this happen again. First being to go to the teacher. etc. We have also told her that if something is happening and it isn't stopping because of a teacher she should tell the teacher she wants to call her mom and dad, that we will be there in a heartbeat.

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